12 Oct THE SPACE IN-BETWEEN
By Patti Sayre, Psychotherapist, L.C.S.W (Patti has joined us at Montclare to present parenting workshops over the years. Sign up for her newsletter!)
Autumn is the perfect season to illustrate the key features of transitions. In a time of transition, we become travelers on uncertain terrain. We leave the known path, however, we are equally uncertain of the path ahead. We need to let go of old situations, suffer the confusing nowhere of “the space in between” and launch forth again into new situations.
Autumn is a time of reflection on the summer and the year thus far as well as a time of preparation for the winter and upcoming holiday season. It is a very emotional time of the year, filled with lots of memories, many of them associated with back to school. It can often feel like a Sunday evening; so much to get ready; a focus on tomorrow. If the memories that flood your mind are positive, you might dwell for a few minutes in the happy feelings. If the memories are negative they might be creating a resistance to moving forward.
Whether your memories are warm and fuzzy or lean towards the melancholy, autumn is a time of reflection on the summer and the year thus far, as well as a time of preparation for the winter and upcoming holiday season. September can be an emotionally rich month if we can let it be! This time of the year holds tremendous potential for growth. As we enter the harvest season, consider the physical, emotional and relational ways that you may be affected by this “space in-between”.
The nature of this season is one of moving from the external, expansive nature of the summer to a more introspective place. It is a good time to think about what you need to let go of so as to make room for new experiences that will help you to learn and grow. September, October, and November are not always easy months.
Tips to help to help you get into the Rhythm of the Fall
- Be in the moment. Appreciate where you are.
- Discard the mental attitudes that are no longer serving you.
- Discard the objects in your home that you no longer want or use.
- Take care of yourself in ways that make you feel centered and grounded.
- Take your time. Connect to your inner self.
- Don’t take action for the sake of action. Live for a while in this fertile “space in-between”.
- Don’t give up on the fall. Give yourself the chance to appreciate its natural beauty and opportunity for growth.
HAPPY FALL !