17 Nov Being Present in Preschool
By Noel Cohen, Montclare Children’s School’s Music Teacher
I am a meditator. I try to meditate every morning for 25 minutes.
When my son went off to college, and my marriage fell apart, I was face with a chasm in my life.
On the one hand, I had just successfully accomplished the most important mission I had ever taken on, raising a happy, healthy child into a flourishing young man. I knew that there would never be anything more important than that. Nevertheless, a dark feeling of despair came over me as was faced with a sense that my life was effectively over.
Sure, there were other goals, but none could ever measure up to that soul-deep satisfaction of being a good Father.
With all that time and space I suddenly had, I decided to dig into meditation, something I had dabbled in over the years. I also dedicated myself to my twin careers of being a preschool music teacher and pop songwriter each with a greater and deeper commitment.
The willingness to face traumas – be they large, small, primitive or fresh – is the key to healing from them. They may never disappear in the way we think they should, but maybe they don’t need to. Trauma is an ineradicable aspect of life. We are human as a result of it, not in spite of it.” – Mark Epstein
And of all the brilliant, lauded meditation teachers I’ve studied and encountered, including Joseph Goldstein, Jack Kornfield, Mark Epstein, Sharon Salzburg and others, none have taught me more then the children of Montclare Children’s School!
Children who are 2, 3 and 4 years old, are truly experiencing everything for the first time. They haven’t gone through the wild ups and downs of life, the disappointments, (yes, an election!) or hopefully, any of the trauma that we as adults have experienced.
Each day, with their wide eyes and immediate enthusiasm, I feel them telling me, “Wow, isn’t life amazing?” And the only sane response is, “YOU ARE RIGHT, IT IS!!!”
~ Noel Cohen
Editor’s and proud father’s note: Some of you may know my son, Emory Cohen, and if you’ve seen the movie “Brooklyn”, he played Tony, the Italian plumber. If you have not seen the movie, here is my highly biased opinion, SEE IT!